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goosebruce wrote:seymore, I think you mighta missed my point.

What typically happens is when a feller is in love, he is with her 7 days a week all year. then come hunting season he is GONE. Shes given up all her friends, all her typical to do stuff, and feels neglected. Its a shock to her system, shes given everything up to be with you, and now in her mind, you've forsaken her. Without trying, you've misled her into thinking how its gonna be, even if all along you told her otherwise. Women need to have their life, and their life with you. So many will give up their life, FOR you. And now you've hurt her because unknowningly you've gotten her to give all that up. Relationships are give and take, but that means something different to a woman than a man. Most all women will give up everything for you, very few men will. Men can go 9 months without seeing their friends, and pick up like they never left off. Women dont do that. Being honest encourage her to have HER life, be that friends, career, school, whatever HER life is, and when she wants you to be a part of it with her do it with as much vigor as you do your stuff. but she still needs HER stuff... women will quit their bunko game, to cook supper for you and be ignored, if you let them. They quit a vacation with their friends, if you let them. Encourage that stuff, and she has a life, something to do when you are gone. We do this to ourselves, we let them do away with all their normal stuff THEY do, and then surprised when they are freaked about hunting season. travis

Good post.

Beat It!!!!!!!!

Work it out now, or it will only get worse.

Mine doesn't like it because I'm away at State while she is at Ole Miss all year. Then in the summer I'm working 80 hours a week and see her around 3 days a week because she lives 20-30 minutes away. Then winter rolls around and I'm out hunting 3-4 days at a time. So her excuse is that I should spend time with her while I can... And I usually say "Okay........... after I go hunting this weekend".

She usually likes pulling "We've spent more time apart than together" line when I start going alot. Which that statement is completely true. But I've hunted all my life and will continue too. Been working pretty well for over 2.5 years now

sab316 wrote:Mine doesn't like it because I'm away at State while she is at Ole Miss all year. Then in the summer I'm working 80 hours a week and see her around 3 days a week because she lives 20-30 minutes away. Then winter rolls around and I'm out hunting 3-4 days at a time. So her excuse is that I should spend time with her while I can... And I usually say "Okay........... after I go hunting this weekend".

She usually likes pulling "We've spent more time apart than together" line when I start going alot. Which that statement is completely true. But I've hunted all my life and will continue too. Been working pretty well for over 2.5 years now

Then don't be surprised when she up-and-one-day says, "Oh, I meant to tell you......I've started dating someone else." Sounds like she's trying to tell you, now. Better listen - if you find someone you can half-way get along with now, it'd be best to develop some skills you'll need later - unless you plan to be single the rest of your life.

GordonGekko wrote: work makes it tougher to hunt than my wife does....

+1000

The main thing I would echo is to remember that relationships are about love, trust, compromise, and sacrifice. I hunt most weekends of deer season over here. I make a couple of trips to MS for ducks every year. I hunt almost every morning of turkey season so I get my time.

If you make your wife (girlfriend) feel like SHE's the most important thing in your life, you will rarely have blow-ups over time spent doing hunting, golf, or whatever. Make the most of the time you do spend together. If I've spent the last 5 days hunting all day and living the life with my buddies and she has a thing she wants me to go with to her when I get back, I suck it up, and go without complaining. Send her flowers because it's Wednesday. Better yet, have something delivered while your away with something nice on the card. Man, you can go a long way with stuff like that. If she's worth it, make it work and SHE should make the same concessions too. One thing though, I've never dated anyone that complained and "bitched" about my hunting. You gotta find one that loves you and accepts you for what you are and what you do. A lifetime is a long time to put up with that stuff.

It's all about priorities. I don't want to look back one day and think I didn't spend enough time with my girl.

Dr. B

sab16.... i dont want to sound like a smart booty, or an old fart, but school will be over soon enough. If shes the one, then time right now invested in her will pay off. Belive me when I say before long, that short period of time flew by! ha. Theres no good way to do something now, and tell her how its gonna be later, because then you fall into the trap of 'lookie what I did'. Men do it all the time... lookie what i did, i did the dishes. Your wife is real freggin impressed when you do something on a blue moon she does all the time. NEVER call attetion to that stuff, just do it occaisonally. So play it safe by saying man when school is over and we're together all the time, thats gonna be great.. yada yada and then i get into this camp or whatever. Fine line ya walking there but your a hard working college boy, you can figger it out! ha. Belive me though, the time that seems forever now will be gone before you know it, and it just gets faster.

Thank you ann. Coming from you, thats one of the best compliments Ive ever got. I told my wife just last night watching a tv show about pologmist, we ought to ck that out, her life would be a lot easier if she had a wife of her own. She thinks Id just want them together to get it on, but listened to me when I told her how wonderful having a wife is. She always says, if recarniation is for real, she wants to come back as a husband! ha.

Some people end up being married. i can't imagine that. That feeling you can't spend one more minute without someone is the 2nd most wonderful feeling in the world (your kids being first!). I can say I was blessed with a great home life growing up, and saw the way my dad loved my mom, and how they interacted. And thats been how ive always lived my married life and its done well for me. I get away with murder... plan and simple. But wife loves me, and we're in this together. Thats the best of both worlds. travis

I can only speak for myself,my wife is pretty great when it comes to my hunting or fishing. She has bought me boats, guns and stuff to do both hobbies with. She does go fishing with me hasnt gone hunting yet but says she will.We have 2 teenage sons and I usually hunt with them. She sees it as time spent with dad and money well spent. She goes to the beach or spa with friends. I call that the surcharge for my hunting or fishing.She supports me in what I like to do and I support her. Marriage is not a 50/50 its really 100/100 if you cannt give it your all then your only half azzing it. A day spent on the boat or blind with my family is worth more to me than anything else. I keep a log of our hunts so when I cannt go anymore I can look back at them and they will have to pass on to there kids. just my 2 cents.

Mine just accepts that she's going to be a hunting widow until Feb! Another season like last year and she won't have to be!

my girlfriend of five years gives me no crap about being gone every weekend from November till january.

she loves the dog, is glad when i have a good hunt, and is interested in runnin a call.

she's gorgeous and im the luckiest guy on the planet.

mally2 wrote:my girlfriend of five years gives me no crap about being gone every weekend from November till january.

she loves the dog, is glad when i have a good hunt, and is interested in runnin a call.

she's gorgeous and im the luckiest guy on the planet.

Key word in this sentence is "girlfriend"

Find one that likes the outdoors or take her as much as you can so she feels like she is apart of the experience....just let her know up front there are times that she will not be able to go cause you are hunting with the boys...lots of times they are just good with going long for the ride and hanging out at camp if possible....

cwink wrote:

mally2 wrote:my girlfriend of five years gives me no crap about being gone every weekend from November till january.

she loves the dog, is glad when i have a good hunt, and is interested in runnin a call.

she's gorgeous and im the luckiest guy on the planet.

Key word in this sentence is "girlfriend"

i hear ya....


gorgeous is also another good keyword

mally2 wrote:

cwink wrote:

mally2 wrote:my girlfriend of five years gives me no crap about being gone every weekend from November till january.

she loves the dog, is glad when i have a good hunt, and is interested in runnin a call.

she's gorgeous and im the luckiest guy on the planet.

Key word in this sentence is "girlfriend"

i hear ya....


gorgeous is also another good keyword

Also very subjective. Just sayin
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