On man I just got the lecture.....

[Bamawebfoot]

She knew the deal before she said "I do", hunting and fishing has not been an issue for the last 23 years. She is a good one. I told her I would give up either drinking and chasing women or hunting, fishing and golf, it was her choice.

[quack_a_tack]

As said already the attitude changes when that ring appears. Noone in my wifes family hunts, therefore she had no idea the hell that she was in for, I have been threatened more times than I can count during hunting season over the last three years. This year will be more the same I am sure. I just grin and walk out the door, I usually say somethin clever like, well if I get home and your gone I can go tommorrow morning without any bitching.

[quackheadbp]

As said already the attitude changes when that ring appears. Noone in my wifes family hunts, therefore she had no idea the hell that she was in for, I have been threatened more times than I can count during hunting season over the last three years. This year will be more the same I am sure. I just grin and walk out the door, I usually say somethin clever like, well if I get home and your gone I can go tommorrow morning without any bitching.

I think our wives may be related.

Seriously though, You have to balance things out when it comes to putting on the ole ring. Theres nothing worse than pissing her off and going hunting and worried about her being upset, and you cant even enjoy your hunt. If you cant manage these things, you need to stay single or find one that loves to hunt and fish.

[RedEyed Duck]

My wife doesn't hunt and her dad never did, but she's a good one and lets me have my time. She does always get a bit frustrated or cranky near the end of duck season, well now that I think about it maybe thats me

[cwink]

My wife has never had a problem with it. I don't abuse it though. If one of the kids is sick and puking their guts up I'm not bailing on her while I go hunting even though she's told me to go. In all seriousness you have to remember that when you get married and have kids you have a resoponsibility that is greater than duck hunting. If you don't want the responsibility then stay single. That's not to say you give it up and change when married. It just means you have to weigh it with other things and sometimes those other responsibilities win out. If you have a girl who is bitchin' about you going all the time though dump her and find one who also respects you for being you as you respect her for being her. I don't know if that makes sense but it will after you have been married.

+1..

[huntersmky]

This coming from the guy who 6 months ago wouldn't leave the house without his old lady and Damn sure didn't give any of his boys a call. Come on Vickers, your balls were definitely in a paper sack and in her purse. I'm sure Farmer C will be right along with me on this one.

i don't care if my wife and/or girlfriend housed my testicles in a paper bag in the deepest recesses of her purse i'm sure i bought, only allowing me to view them on my birthday......................................i would have never started this thread.

but, hey, that's just me

gator

Bingo....

Single, Married, Divorced, Live-In, whatever....you cant put the "BEARDED CLAM" on a pedistal...Never balk when questioned, and never let them think they have the upperhand.

[farmerc83]

I'll agree but he says he's learned his lesson....we'll see when the next ole lady comes along. As for when you're married, things seem to go a whole lot easier when I spend that extra 30 minutes putting my stuff away when I come home from a weekend or longer trip. If I throw all my clothes in the wash right when I get home then I never hear a negative word and even get thanked for taking care of it. Then she gets it all back in my rubbermaid box ready for the next weekend. Kids will add another dimension and I'm sure we'll figure something out there, too, based on mutual respect and a desire to make things easier on the other one.

[deltadukman]

I'll agree but he says he's learned his lesson....we'll see when the next ole lady comes along. As for when you're married, things seem to go a whole lot easier when I spend that extra 30 minutes putting my stuff away when I come home from a weekend or longer trip. If I throw all my clothes in the wash right when I get home then I never hear a negative word and even get thanked for taking care of it. Then she gets it all back in my rubbermaid box ready for the next weekend. Kids will add another dimension and I'm sure we'll figure something out there, too, based on mutual respect and a desire to make things easier on the other one.

I have learned and I am making up for it 10-fold this season. Last year what made it APPEAR that way was the fact that I got out of that camp and didnt get into another one. So I just stayed around rankin county and deer hunted some farmland I can hunt. Also, the birds never really were over where we hunt. I did make the Annual North Tunica hunt. Farmer I agree you do good on that aspect, but we're going to have to work on this coming home early on Sunday afternoon thing though. Weekends in the woods run from Friday night to Sunday at sundown.

[tdaggett]

If she's bitchin', and you're only dating, that's gonna be a bad, bad deal. Seems to me some of y'all are datin' girls who like SOMETHING about you, and figure they can change the rest to suit them, or either extra selfish and want everything to be about them. These would be the WRONG women. Just find you one who knows the deal, and is willing to accept it. Or do like me, and be such a jackass that she's ready for a break from you by the time the season rolls around. Between me, and our son, she's already beggin' us to go to the camp for the weekend, but by the end of the season, she's just happy to see me. Either way, been married 20 years, and never had a problem. Just be smart, and if there's a home situation you should really be helping with, get it handled before going to the camp.
Oh, and remember..."Absence makes the va-jay-jay (not the heart) grow fonder."

[woody]

Vickers you got an ol' lady??? and farmerc83 clever with the name, I like. tell E i said hello.

It shouldn't be hard to figure out my name, but I'll give you a hint.
Vickers - I'm Reago's buddy
Farmer - I believe we were on the sme baseball team growing up.... hahaha small world running into you guys on here...

[deltadukman]

If she's bitchin', and you're only dating, that's gonna be a bad, bad deal. Seems to me some of y'all are datin' girls who like SOMETHING about you, and figure they can change the rest to suit them, or either extra selfish and want everything to be about them. These would be the WRONG women. Just find you one who knows the deal, and is willing to accept it. Or do like me, and be such a jackass that she's ready for a break from you by the time the season rolls around. Between me, and our son, she's already beggin' us to go to the camp for the weekend, but by the end of the season, she's just happy to see me. Either way, been married 20 years, and never had a problem. Just be smart, and if there's a home situation you should really be helping with, get it handled before going to the camp.
Oh, and remember..."Absence makes the va-jay-jay (not the heart) grow fonder."

Hittin the nail on the head ssoooonnnnnn.

I will say that I have stuck to my guns....no relationship to start during hunting season...we started dating on Feb 1

Woody....no woman no more....no mas...wont start back looking again until 2-1-11. I think I know who you are....like to keep the criminal on the skreets or locking them up? Correct?

[tdaggett]

Did DDM just agree with me........AGAIN?!?!?
Your time on Smith Lake must have got you sunburnt, and brought you over to the Dark Side!

[mudsucker]

Just turn Gay like GH22! He said no more worry with "wimmens"!!!

[goosebruce]

your problem is self imposed.you give her everything 66% of the year, and the other 33% you want to yourself. you think thats a good deal. she thinks your abadoning her during 1/3 of the year. your doing math, shes dealing with emotions. You got to start doing more stuff.....

think about it. if every non duck season weekend your at her beckon call, its a system shock for her when all of sudden your gone 12 in a row. she gave up her activities and friends, because ya'll are together all year long. guys and go back and forth with buddies and never miss a beat. chicks dont. Start doing MORE stuff in the non duck season and it will ease the transistion to duck season.

When we train dogs, we use the term standards. We expect a certain complience ALL the time. If we allow one behavior one day, and then dont allow it the next, it causes confusion and a lack of complience at the times we need it most. Your realationship has a standards issue.

Now, this is the part most guys "@#$%#" up. When you do something WITH her, be as excited and energetic about it as you are your stuff. be as ready to go to HER stuff as yours. be considerate, tell her in advance when you want to do something. Plan on more stuff than you do, so if she has something come up, you can give up something FOR HER.

[goosebruce]

We got married on a thursday night. my wife was off sat sun mon, I was off fri sat sun. my fishing buddy called thursday night, told him we went ahead and got married. Guess we aint going in the morning eh? Dat's sheet, be here at 6. she had to go to work, i left an hour later, I thought it set the tone for the marriage and it did.

My wife would rather me be doing what I want, and be glad to be with her when its her time, than to sit home and gripe or even quietly be unhappy. Im gone probably 49 weekends a year. But if she has something she wants me to do, she tells me in plenty of time, and HER stuff is as big as mine. She dont ask much, but when she wants it, shes got it. She doesnt ask ANYTHING during hunt test season, or duck season. if i ever stay home 2 weekends in a row, it drives her nuts. She needs her alone time too, and Im hard to live with. Im up at 6 doing something, even if Im at home. So I never stay home 2 weekends in a row.

We duck hunt an hour from the house. Im lucky that way. so we get up and drive everyday, and then come home. Im gone so much during dog season, I actually think I owe it to her to not be in a gig I got to stay for 2 nights and 3 days everyweekend. travis