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Dutch Dog wrote:No need in getting assault charges on yourself. Don't "discuss" pressing charges PRESS CHARGES. A smartass punk like that needs to be nipped in the bud now....I guarandamntee you he'll NEVER do it again.

+1...at least encourage her to talk with the prosecutor and law enforcement. Then they will pay him a visit and see how badace he is. even if a conviction is not the desire, at least scare him some with some direct contact with the law.

a man should NEVER hit a woman...EVER. PERIOD. no exceptions.

Me being in law enforcement I wouldn't waste any time on taking action. Although she has to sign and all I would file a restraining order and make sure a warning of trespassing is given. Once he has been warned if he shows up straight to the county he goes. Don't blame her just yet as for you would be surprised how often we see this. You controlled yourself very well as for I wouldn't have contained myself. I would make it a point to get the parents involved and let them know what took place and what the actions are if he continues harassing. There are several different charges you can press and if he pushes your buttons over and over. Get them to charge him for everything in the book and let the judge sort it out. Domestic Violence is nothing to play with so obviously he has no idea what kinda penalties he could face. Good luck to you

with a 14 month old daughter crawling around the floor wired tighter than an 18 day clock right now at 9:05PM, I would like to say you did a very good job in handling it the way you did and I dread the day I may have to go through that. In this day and age of sue happy people, putting your hands on someone is NOT the best way to handle something. You can do much better with longer effects by handling things differently than putting your hands on someone.


Use the advice you've been given by others and start looking into it. Don't sit around and waste time.

Seymore i must applaud you in your restraint i know i wouldnt have been able to do it.

God new better than to give me a daughter. Ida whooped his booty where he stood.

After several attempts by the boy to contact her today, I visited with his parents this evening. I gave them the opportunity to deal with their son before I sought the advice of the legal system. They assured me they would deal with him, offered to pay for any damages, and are to call me tomorrow after they discuss this with him.

They did not know he was in Tishomingo last night with her and friends at a cabin but rather believed he was in Oxford. In fact they had no idea of some of the activities that I told them.

I did not raise my voice or threaten anyone. I did make sure they were aware that we were prepared to take it to the next level at the next attempted contact.

I am sorry this happened to your daughter and hope she will be able to get some good counseling to help her work through this. You did the right thing, even though it must have been nearly impossible to restrain yourself. When someone hurts your daughter it lights a fire inside unlike anything else ever experienced.

My wife was in social work in various respects before she bore our first of three children. She has seen some really bad and messed up stuff dealing with domestic violence and family court matters. One thing she told me a few years ago after we were inadvertently pulled into a domestic abuse issue was that a battered woman staying with an abusive man typically ends one of two ways: dead or very close to it (but close enough to realize she has to get away from the man immediately). I don't want to scare you, but your daughter is in a very delicate and dangerous place now with this man because his true colors have now been shown to the world. If she goes back to him, there is a very good chance things will escalate. PLEASE take legal action, meet with his parents, and try to get the best possible help for your daughter to get her broken away from this guy!

You will all be in my prayers.

Seymore wrote:After several attempts by the boy to contact her today, I visited with his parents this evening. I gave them the opportunity to deal with their son before I sought the advice of the legal system. They assured me they would deal with him, offered to pay for any damages, and are to call me tomorrow after they discuss this with him..

I would highly encourage you to file a police report. There needs to be some written record of his behavior, .... because it will happen again. Maybe not with your daughter. But guys like this do not change.

He is too old to be dealing just with his parents. They only have so much pull.
Protect your daughter, and get the authorities involved...

I would also pursue pressing charges. Hopefully jail will scare the crap out of this kid and it will be a lesson learned. I just got out a 30 day stay in jail and most of the guys i was with not only promoted beating on women they were actually proud of it. So who knows the kid could come out a monster but lets just hope he learns a lesson, i know i did.

Press charges, file complaints, get a paper trail started at least.....that way when the shiat hits the fan again you are just protecting your family from a violent chronic domestic abuser!!! Heck, I know a guy that is in hot water over a bad verbal assualt!!! The courts are taking these kind of things serious down here these days!!! Sorry to hear about this news!!

marshrat87 wrote:I would also pursue pressing charges. Hopefully jail will scare the crap out of this kid and it will be a lesson learned. I just got out a 30 day stay in jail and most of the guys i was with not only promoted beating on women they were actually proud of it. So who knows the kid could come out a monster but lets just hope he learns a lesson, i know i did.

Really???

quackheadbp wrote:

marshrat87 wrote:I would also pursue pressing charges. Hopefully jail will scare the crap out of this kid and it will be a lesson learned. I just got out a 30 day stay in jail and most of the guys i was with not only promoted beating on women they were actually proud of it. So who knows the kid could come out a monster but lets just hope he learns a lesson, i know i did.

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Seymour I am just seeing this. Sorry you have to go through it. However you did show amazing restraint.

I suspect you will have to continue to do this as I suspect this genius will give you other opportunities no matter what his parents do. I hope I am wrong but I bet this is far from over and like everyone else I would seek out my legal options.

I would pursue any criminal and civil causes of action available, including but not limited to a temporary and, or a permanent restraining order, particularly if this isn't the first time he's "been rough" with your daughter.... Our system isn't perfect, but it is there for a reason, use it.

Drake88 wrote:

quackheadbp wrote:

marshrat87 wrote:I would also pursue pressing charges. Hopefully jail will scare the crap out of this kid and it will be a lesson learned. I just got out a 30 day stay in jail and most of the guys i was with not only promoted beating on women they were actually proud of it. So who knows the kid could come out a monster but lets just hope he learns a lesson, i know i did.

Really???

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